Saturday, October 10, 2009

The (sad) irony

To add to my week of being shocked, this morning I woke up to a text from a teacher I worked with last year. One of my students is pregnant. As common as this would if I taught high school, the thing is that I teach on the elementary side.  So that makes the girl desperately young and unprepared for the reality of what just happened.

How ironic is it that a twelve year old girl will get pregnant when it's definitely not the right time, and a thirty-three year old can not get knocked up for the life of her?

What makes me even more sad about the situation is that she has no guidance whatsoever. She often sends me messages asking basic life advice. It kills me. I spent all of last year convincing her that dropping out of school at sixteen was not a plan that would work well for her.

It's just sad.

As for me, my bed rest is almost up. We are actually leaving Louisiana tomorrow morning and driving up to our new place in Missouri.

I remember when I first came here, I was not a huge fan of Louisiana living although I just figured it was a new experience for us. But over the last couple of years, I have come to really appreciate  the culture, the laid back lifestyle, and people who are friendly for no reason! Even more, I will miss our first house that my husband and I shared for the first few years of our marriage.

On to the next adventure.....



  1. That is the most heart hurting news! I can't even remember being 12, it was so long ago. I know that everything is supposed to happen for a reason. I just wish we knew what those reasons were. Wow.

  2. Wow...I remember being 12...and very sheltered....not sure I even fully understood what sex was!!!!!!!! That poor little girl...I hope that she can find a good support system through this time!

  3. I so envy your bedrest. I clearly should have done the same thing! What a strange text to wake up to - the universe is so mysterious. It truly is amazing that years and years ago, girls got pregnant as soon as they became fertile, and human beings barely lived to be 40! I wonder if she will give the baby up for adoption? I wish you wonderful things as you make this new start in Missouri, my friend!!! Keeping everything crossed for you!

  4. That is such a complex post and brings up SO MANY emotions that it's difficult to know what to say. And I'm an outsider to the situation so I can only imagine how hard it is for you to be there right in the middle of it. On the one hand it's easy to get jealous or frustrated at the sheer unfairness of a life that lets those who aren't ready become pregnant so easily while us IF woman struggle to get some semblance of fertility. And on the other hand it's just so sad that she's in that situation at such a very very young age. It must be very frightening for her. Although if she is already having sex then I guess she is a lot more worldly than I was at that tender age. Wow life throws curve balls everywhere doesn't it?

  5. Congrats on the transfer. I know you must feel so blessed to have finally made it to this point.

    A 12 yr old pregnant is so tragic. It just proves that life isn't always fair.

    I hope you are able to relax over the next 2 weeks and enjoy your new home.

  6. How sad for that little girl and her unborn baby. Prayers for the best for both of them.

    I hope that y'all are having a safe and uneventful PCS =) Fingers crossed and praying that you get a BFP this time!