Last night I asked FairyEggs to take a stab at writing a guest post for the blog. For any of you ICLWers, FairyEggs is one of my best friends who will be our donor for our cycle in January. I love her dearly and thought it would be fun for you to get a little perspective from her. Without further ado, I give you my very own personal fairy godmother!
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Well, I am FairyEggs….I am not as eloquent as J, but want her to have a baby almost as badly as she does. I feel like this journey has been going on for a very long time for her, all the while I am complaining and whining about my three healthy, beautiful kids to her. After the last negative test I just sat on my couch and cried for her. Would she ever know the feeling of holding her child in her arms? Was there anything I could do for her? I had already offered to be a surrogate for her. But obviously that wasn’t the problem. My husband wasn’t thrilled about the idea that I would be pregnant with someone else’s child, but he was supportive because he knew how much it meant to me. Then the idea of donor eggs came up while I was talking to her. I immediately told her I wish that I could help her, but I just didn’t think I could know a biological child of mine was out there.
I got off of the phone and talked to my husband who shocked the heck out me. He said he would rather me give my eggs to J than for me to carry her child because you don’t bond with eggs! He said that I wasn’t using them anymore, so I might as well give them to her. I thought on that for a while and then realized that I would give her a kidney, so why not my eggs! Either way it is just sharing a little DNA. The fact of the matter is DNA doesn’t make you a parent. It is purely a vehicle with which you make a baby (a beautiful one if I might add). I thought and thought about it. I was awake most of the night thinking about it and then came to the conclusion that there was no way I COULDN’T do it. It took everything I had to not call her at 7 am and tell her. I had to wait until I got off work at 1 pm to give her the good news.
J is the very best friend I have ever had in my life. She is right there with my husband, mother and sister. I wish we could live next door to each other and complain about our husbands and kids while we drink coffee (or Diet Coke) together. We may not be around each other everyday, but she is a part of my daily life.
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Isn't she great? Love her!
xoxo
So, so awesome. We should all have friends like her!
ReplyDeleteThat made me smile. You should count yourself very lucky, as should she.
ReplyDeleteWhat a great friend!
ReplyDeleteWow! You both are wonderful people!
ReplyDeleteICLW
What a neat post! And what a special person FairyEggs is.
ReplyDeletefairy eggs just made me smile, and restored a little of my human faith...
ReplyDeleteHow nice to have such a great relationship
ReplyDeleteLots of love to FairyEggs!!
ReplyDeleteAnd a big hug to you Jenicini :-)
Wow... Awesome friend. Some people are truly amazing. Best wishes for the upcoming cycles..
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Robin
OMG, this just freakin' melted my heart! :) It's very nice to meet you, FairyEggs!
ReplyDeleteThis is such a moving post, and I am touched by by your friendship. This is such an exciting adventure, and I am happy to follow along with you guys! :)
I love Fairy Eggs. What a wonderful friend and blessing she is to you!
ReplyDeleteI LOVE HER and I love this line: "The fact of the matter is DNA doesn’t make you a parent." She is a gem and you are both lucky to have one another! She is right, DNA doesn't make you a mom! :)
ReplyDeleteI'm here from ICLW. I'm so glad I found my way here, what a beautiful story!
ReplyDeleteYou are so lucky to have such a big hearted girlfriend. I also love her comment about DNA doesn't make you a parent. She is gifting you with her eggs out of pure love. Friends like her don't come along very often in life.
ReplyDeleteOk, so I know Fairy Eggs and she does have beautiful children, with these incredible blue eyes. Fairy Eggs is this incredibly smart and funny woman who is a great friend to my sister. I think it will be really neat for my possible niece or nephew to make their friendship an even tighter bond!
ReplyDeleteGreat to get a post from such a friend. I enjoyed the response to the question about "are you able to get pregnant?" I know that there are some questions I feel like answering truthfully.
ReplyDeleteStopping by from ICLW
This post gave me the chills! Beautifully written from a generous and kind person. I wish you both the best of luck in January! Here via ICLW
ReplyDeleteWOW! you have an awesome friend. I don't think I could donate an egg. She's a brave and loving woman.
ReplyDeleteICLW
ICLW - Happy Thanksgiving girl.
ReplyDeleteI think I know you from PTS/SMO?
FAIRY EGGS flipping ROCKS!
Bless you all on this journey....
What an incredible friendship and an amazing story. I hope and pray it is a raging success.
ReplyDelete~ICLW
wow, that is great, I love fairy eggs take on things!!!!
ReplyDeleteWell that post was seriously awesome. It was sweet and heartfelt and just made me cry. I loved the bit where fairy eggs said that she'd give you her kidney so why not eggs. It makes perfect sense and you are both so lucky to have each other.
ReplyDeletePS i'm not just saying this because i'm an overly emotional freak who is hyped up on ivf drugs!
Wow, thank god for real friends, huh? Wishing you luck with your next cycle - maybe we'll be cycling together!
ReplyDelete~Jeannine
*ICLW*
What a beautiful, generous, giving friend you have! This post made me cry!
ReplyDeleteJem