Right now I'm in the quiet lull between Fairyegg and Tink's departure and the transfer. Even though the nurse told me that they would call me the day before transfer to let me know when to come in, my nefarious plan was to bug them until they told me how my embies were doing. I was completely shut down as the nurse told me that they don't do reports. Boo!
It's probably better in the long run because I'm not obsessing over the details. Can you believe that I am not even playing doctor google either? It's strange, but I am completely calm. I feel like I've completely let go of this cycle since I watched it vicariously through Fairyegg's worries and now am heading towards a five-day transfer. Relinquishing control is kind of nice.
Right now I'm just trying to focus on resting and kicking this bug's hiney as my throat has been so swollen that I lost my voice for two days and have been snoring up a storm since I can't breathe at night. HOT, I say. I bet my husband is sad he is missing this special moment with me. Regardless, I now have antibiotics that I am cleared to take until the day before transfer. Already, I am loving my little Amoxicillin.
I had kind of a funny conversation with how many to transfer with my husband. We've never had a choice before and simply transfered the one good one during round one and the two stragglers during round two. Should we round it off with three for round three? My hubby just wants whatever has the best chance of getting me knocked up. I really have no idea but want to keep reasonable since I have high albeit controlled, blood pressure. We'll see if we have a choice by day five. Any thoughts?
So Thursday should be the big day! Send me lots of prayers, happy thoughts, good vibes.
xoxo
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You stay relaxed...and get better soon!!! I would go by the embryo grade. If they're "perfect" then I would do 2. If they're "okay" then I would do 3. But that's my opinion. You need to do whatever is safe and won't cause you any harm! So good to hear from you. I am still praying for a sticky transfer:)
ReplyDeleteTaking it easy is a great idea - your body needs to be in the right "frame of mind" for the new addition(s)! After doing SETs the first two (cuz we only want a singleton) I quit my own thinking and have turned how many over to the RE completely. He transferred 2 perfect ones this time, we'll see! I think you can only decide when you see what you've got available, then GO FOR IT.
ReplyDeleteAlso, on the embie reports: our clinic tells us the fert report and then gives an update on day 3 - if things are looking iffy they do the transfer then. Then they call the morning of day 5 to say whether to come in or not. This is SUPER INCONVENIENT if you have another child to deal with, but they just won't tell you ahead. They say checking on the embies is disturbing to them, and they like to keep it to an absolute minimum. So I'd say no news is good news and hope for the best!
i can only wish you the best!
ReplyDeletethe doctor told me to only transfer one next time, but im definitely going to get a second opinion on that, though i don't think i would be able to do two again even if someone says its ok...
there are so many decisions at every turn aren't there?, im sure you and your husband will do what is best for your little family.
when is transfer do you know yet?
oops thurs :)
ReplyDeleteHi Jen. I'm absolutely loving the fact that you are totally in the zone for this transfer. So happy for you. Like you, i've never had the luxury of choice as far as how many embryos to transfer so I can imagine that having to actually make this decision would be an exciting one. In my un-informed opinion, i'd transfer 2 great embies or 3 if they are of lesser quality. But whatever you decide I can't wait to hear!!!!
ReplyDeleteI am sending you super premium good vibes!!!
ReplyDeleteI hope you have all 6 ready for Day 5!
Good Luck for all the milestones ahead...
I think 2 - 3 would be a good number to transfer...
Hope you feel better soon! And I'm glad they are keeping all the details quiet--it takes the pressure off of you to stay out of freak-out mode!
ReplyDeleteAs for transfer, I am in the def 2 camp but 3 isn't out of the question depending on quality. But, with your medical history of high BP, I would consider what the Dr recommends too.
Hugs and can't wait to hear about the transfer!
I think it's all a matter of what you could handle if all of them turned in to babies. If you can handle the idea of twins or even triplets I'd say go for it. If not... why not do one at the time? With vitrification of blasts the success rates of FETs are equal to those of a fresh cycle in most clinics.
ReplyDeleteGood luck with the decision making and your transfer, it sounds like you're in your happy place :)
I'm surprised they won't tell you how your embies are doing...but I guess its probably for the best as you said!
ReplyDeleteTomorrow is the big day!!! So excited for you!!
Yay for calmness! Hang on to that Zen, girl! It's good for you! :) I have no particular insight on the number of embryos to transfer. I'm so new to this game and I am still wrapping my head around it myself. Sigh. Whichever decision you make--as long as it's well-thought and made with a full heart--is the best one for you. My fingers are crossed super tight for a good report! :)
ReplyDeleteYou are at the very tip top of my prayer list my friend. I feel great, GREAT things coming your way. I will be thinking of you!!!! I think the very best thing you can do is to stay calm and relaxed and make the perfect home for your new bb's!
ReplyDeleteOhhhhhh, I'm so excited! I can't imagine what it must be like to decide how many to transfer...If it were me, since I know I would be really happy with twins, but freak out if I had triplets, I would transfer 2 and then freeze the others.
ReplyDeleteYou take really good care of yourself!!!
Can't wait til transfer day!!
Love,
Maddy
I can't wait for that magic moment when you get to see your embryos on the screen. I don't think you can really make a decision about how many to transfer until you see what you get. Triplets would be terrifying. But a positive pregnancy test would be great. Hum, though call.
ReplyDeleteJust one more day until your transfer. This is so exciting. I hope you are feeling much better.
ReplyDeleteI'm so excited to hear all is going well -- you sound very relaxed about the whole thing, which is clearly the right approach.
ReplyDeleteHow many? We've been having the 1 vs 2 conversation endlessly since we only want one... I think it just depends on how fast you want to get to a positive, and your tolerance for twins. Good luck with whatever you decide!
Thinking about you today and sending lots of good vibes!
ReplyDeletexoxo