With a trusty internet search, I started figuring out what we needed to do next. By the next day, I had a few interviews set up with attorneys specializing in infertility and adoption. I had contacted my RE in California and the donating family’s records were being sent within the week. I chose a lawyer and then everything sloooowed down. It was then that I developed a tremendous amount of respect for the donating family because in everything they were direct and supportive. But, it did take time to figure out some of the details with the embryos. I think this was just a natural progression of figuring out how our personal wishes translated into practical and legal terms.
Then, on June 29th we signed the contracts. More than embryos we gained a new branch to our family. And what a great family it is….
While we would have been content to be chosen by pretty much any family, I am most excited that this family wants the same type of future contact with us. In my mind, I hoped that the family who chose us would eventually become part of our extended family. This comes from the fact that I think you can never have too many people who love your children. Besides this, I have been lucky enough to have people in my life that have become family to me. I want this with the people who are giving us the means to add to our family. It just seems like a natural progression to me.
Besides this, I just want my child to be able to know their origins like in an open or semi-open adoption. I think knowing this family’s twins will do this for them. Like us, the family who chose us used an egg donor for their cycle. In their case, they went to one of the best clinics in the country and used an anonymous donor from their pool. As contrary as it may sound, I don’t really mind that the egg donor is anonymous in this case. Mainly, I feel this way because there are so many other people that our kiddo will have a chance to bond with and get to know within their family.
With little E, I find some things that remind me of Fairyeggs or her children that make me laugh. For example, he has this slightly curly patch of hair on the back of his head that Fairyeggs does. He also has some expressions that I swear come straight from her daughter. I love knowing this. So for this kiddo, I can’t wait to see what kind of quirks he/she shares with her twins.
What’s super exciting is that we also agreed to share our blogs with our readers. So, you can read about IVFlygirl and her perspective on our story HERE. She made me cry with her beautiful post.
Over the past couple of weeks I have really been struggling to write this blog post. I simply don’t feel like I’m doing justice to our story. However, since tomorrow (Friday) is our big day, I wanted to share this with you. We will be transferring two embryos about 11 am (PST). Please send us lots of good thoughts!!!
Loves to all.