tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post2995815486914467432..comments2024-03-13T10:58:56.182-08:00Comments on Knocked Up By Another Man....: What IF?jenicinihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16361606793108116475noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-60411441406868980692010-05-05T03:53:33.619-08:002010-05-05T03:53:33.619-08:00Lis sent me over to your blog as I am struggling w...Lis sent me over to your blog as I am struggling with the same disclosure questions. Thank you for your perspective, I too have agreed on disclosure to future child/ren, but was struggling with others. You have given me a lot to think about. Good luck.R.https://www.blogger.com/profile/09730805885076066358noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-74115778680924854442010-04-10T21:33:36.162-08:002010-04-10T21:33:36.162-08:00What a beautiful post. The good choices you make t...What a beautiful post. The good choices you make today will save your family a lifetime of major friction on this issue. <br /><br />What has FairyEgg's perspective been? <br /><br />I am glad that you had a friend who cared so much for you...alhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07679149270839974470noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-27471882218745958302010-04-10T13:00:28.354-08:002010-04-10T13:00:28.354-08:00I think it is great that you are going to be hones...I think it is great that you are going to be honest with your child. IF never really leaves us, no matter what our situation. At least you have plenty of time to figure out exactly how you want to handle YOUR situation. I think it is wonderful that you actually know and love your egg donor.Peacheshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06903969640034520006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-13206527636044735732010-04-10T05:44:22.239-08:002010-04-10T05:44:22.239-08:00You sound like you're well on your way to maki...You sound like you're well on your way to making a lot of good choices for your soon-to-be child. I think that whatever you choose to do and how much you reveal needs to be what you believe is right for the child (vs what's most comfortable for you, or what's least socially awkward, etc.). I have tremendous confidence that that is what you're trying to do. Glad your pregnancy continues to go smoothly!finchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13517411348405651768noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-62756588356160947052010-04-09T20:31:16.704-08:002010-04-09T20:31:16.704-08:00what a wonderful gift FE has given you and in turn...what a wonderful gift FE has given you and in turn, you will give right back by being honest with your child and yourself. because what are the most important things in life? family and good friends, and in FE you have them both. lucky girl!<br /><br />lots of love and hugs<br /><br />xoxobibchttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13696528943928321710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-86206930627564198632010-04-09T17:47:22.083-08:002010-04-09T17:47:22.083-08:00beautifully said Jen. x :)beautifully said Jen. x :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-60530472945630662622010-04-09T17:42:22.551-08:002010-04-09T17:42:22.551-08:00oh sorry, I didn't know what you called her, l...oh sorry, I didn't know what you called her, lol! You are going to be educating us all! :)Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18141938504286823209noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-56903595349311943072010-04-09T17:21:25.150-08:002010-04-09T17:21:25.150-08:00Thanks for the comment...donor eggs is one of thos...Thanks for the comment...donor eggs is one of those issues that isn't talked about much since it isn't as common as other family building options like adoption. Even the terminology is still evolving. For example, the egg donor is not typically referred to as a mother. :) It seems so complicated at times....but simple in other respects. :)jenicinihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16361606793108116475noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5995232394874598825.post-2189926753283528942010-04-09T17:00:04.760-08:002010-04-09T17:00:04.760-08:00Those are so some tough questions. I think for you...Those are so some tough questions. I think for your family's sake, it is best to leave it as if you all did IVF and not used fairy eggs. Those who you love and trust for the most part already know and strangers don't need to know. <br /><br />I think Auntie Fairy Eggs sounds great. I wonder if your child will want to have more of a relationship when or if they find out who fairy eggs really is. I honestly would tell your child sometime if others in your family know. It will eventually come out and you wouldn't want your child to be upset with you. I wonder if your child would want a relationship with fairy eggs as their biological mother or will they be content with just knowing who she is. They always say things about the primal wounds but you won't have to worry about that because you are the one carrying your baby. Sigh...all of this is so difficult! I wish we had the right answers.<br /><br />I struggle with this and adoption. I wonder if my child is going to go to school the first day and say "I have a birth mommy, birth daddy, mommy, daddy, 3 brothers, 2 sisters...etc" Is my child going to see his or her birth parent's children as part of his family or his brothers and sisters? I'd like to think they are called Aunt and Uncle and their kiddos be more like cousins.<br /><br />Sorry for such a long comment, this brought up some great points!Jhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18141938504286823209noreply@blogger.com